Lost my IPhoto with this update What can I do?

Use Photos: Switch to Photos from iPhoto on Mac - Apple Support

"If you didn’t update to OS X 10.10.3 or later, the Photos app is installed automatically when you update your version of macOS. When you first open Photos on your Mac, your photo library is upgraded.

For more information about the Photos app, see the Photos User Guide."

Here are some user tips from Photos for Mac  User Tips that will help you in your transition from iPhoto to Photos:

How to prepare the Photo Libraries before upgrading to Catalina - Apple Community ➙ read first 

External Editors in Photos Are Here

Photo Editing Extensions for Photos for Mac

Post 9/30/2018 Printing Options for Photos - Apple Community

Ordering Books and Calendars on a Mac that cannot be updated past El Capitan 

Use Project Extensions to order print products in Photos after September 30, 2018 - Apple Support

Create and order print products in Photos with Project Extensions - Apple Support

iPhoto was discontinued more than 4 years ago. It is no longer developed or sold. It was replaced by the more powerful (and free) Photos.app that comes with the OS. You can migrate to that app very simply:

Hold down the option (or alt) key and launch Photos. From the resulting menu select 'Choose Library' and point at your iPhoto Library. It will do the rest.

If you prefer not to use Photos there are several 3rd party apps that you can use. Which to choose depends on the kind of photographer you are and your budget.