Apple Mail deletes all mail on all devices
I'm a long time Mac user, but first time Mail user. With Microsoft not updating Outlook to 64-bit, I've decided to switch to Mail, but I'm having serious issues with it.
With Outlook, after my emails downloaded to my computer, they automatically deleted from my ISP's server. With Mail, I have to do a manual delete on the server. What I discovered, and freaked me out, was that by deleting off the server, it automatically deleted everything off my computer. Similarly, when I deleted the emails off my iPad, the automatically deleted off my computer.
An Apple Support person told me that Mail acts more as a place-holder, unlike Outlook. I'm also told that this is the way it works and can't be modified. I could create folders and file keepers in them, but I am just not that organised (and my wife, less so).
Does anyone have relevant insights into Mail behaviours? I can't use Mail in its current form.
iMac 21.5", macOS 10.14