iPad and iPhone cannot be downgraded to prior iOS versions. Full stop.
Downgrading the Mac to a previous macOS version is a major undertaking requiring making a clone backup or having a Time Machine backup made prior to the upgrade to Tahoe. Then wiping the internal drive and reinstalling the older maOS version. Then recovering your files from your backup drive. It's difficult, dangerous and very often very frustrating.
Best to play through the pain, so to speak, and push forward with the new Tahoe OS.
Yes, some things are different, but it's still a Mac.
Mac User Guide - Apple Support
If there are specific functions that are tripping you and the household up, feel free to describe them here in the community and someone will chime it to help guide you through it.