Re: your EtreCheck report:
Without digging too deeply I see a couple big red flags.
1) You have a 1 TB startup drive with only 85 GB Free, 102 GB available. This puts your free space well below the minimum threshold of 10%-15% free space advised and required for the smooth operation of your Mac.
❝ disk3s1s1 - Macintosh HD [APFS Snapshot]
Filesystem: APFS
Mount point: /
Read-only: Yes
Used: 12.19 GB
Shared values
Size: 994.66 GB
Free: 85.08 GB
Available: 102.37 GB❞
You would be wise to move a good chunk of your stuff to an external drive and then delete it from your startup drive. You'll want to relocate 50-100 GB of stuff.
2) You have BitDefender antivirus installed. This may be causing conflict with the OS. Best to uninstall that. It's not needed. Your Mac requires no always-on, third-party anti-virus or anti-malware software.
Apple has built these protections into macOS and they are updated regularly.
• macOS security built right in. - Apple Support
• App Security Overview - Apple Support