Apple pen 1sr generation will not pair with my iPad mini 5

Start here:

Connect Apple Pencil with your iPad - Apple Support

If you continue to have difficulties, here is one of the better troubleshooting guides for the Apple Pencil - that may be helpful in working through common issues.

https://appletoolbox.com/apple-pencil-not-working-heres-our-troubleshooting-guide/

If you have checked through potential issues using the linked troubleshooting guide, then your Apple Pencil may be displaying symptoms of a dead battery - that will not accept or hold any charge.

Assuming that you do not have any other iPad charging issues - whilst the Pencil is plugged-in to the Lightning port of your iPad, verify that the Pencil is recognised:

Settings > General > About

Scroll to the bottom of the page - and you should find one, possibly two, entries for the Pencil. Finding these suggest that the Pencil electronics are good and that the Pencil has paired.

While still docked with the iPad, check the Battery Widget for the charge status of the Pencil. Is it 100%? If not, let the Pencil charge; if it is fully charged, disconnect from the iPad. 

When disconnected from iPad, does the Pencil disappear from the Battery Widget - or it’s indicated state of charge suddenly fall? If either of these are true, then the Pencil battery is likely to be dead.

The tiny internal Li-ion battery is susceptible to permanent/irreversible damage through being left discharged for long periods. Even some “new” pencils can exhibit signs of failure out-of-the-box if they are “old stock”. It is essential that if you have an Apple Pencil that you charge it regularly - whether used or not - so as to protect the battery from deep-discharge.

Do not allow a pencil to remain in low-charge state for any period of time - as the internal battery will fail, rendering the Pencil useless. Setting aside an unused Pencil for long periods often results in almost certain death of the battery.

If the Pencil Battery has failed, the only remedy is to replace the Pencil. If the battery fails within its one-year warranty, you should look to having it replaced at an Apple Store.

I hope this information proves to be helpful in both diagnosing and resolving the problem.