My iPad says iPad is disabled, connect to iTunes How do I do this if I can't access my iPad?

What do you mean you cannot access the iPad? Do you mean that iTunes won't see it? It won't until you put the device into Recovery Mode. See the instructions here, If you forgot the passcode for your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, or your device is disabled - Apple Support

Then you won't be able to use it. Why won't it restore? Do you see an error? Were you able to get the device into Recovery Mode as described in the support document? You can try following this for being unable to restore. If you can't update or restore your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch - Apple Support