Family Sharing Apple Music Subscription

My family and I started a family sharing and I had bought the individual plan for apple music before we decided to do a family plan. I don't receive the family plan privileges and it is shared with everyone except for me and says that its not being shared although icloud+ is. Also when I tried to buy the family plan it told me that someone in my family already has it and not sure how to resolve this. I have updated my phone, left and joined the family again and gone over all settings to make sure its right, yet still not working.